Every Day I Work With Anxious Folks About The Issue Of Their Anxious Thoughts.
It's not as if you can just decide to stop being anxious or stop thinking anxious thoughts. As much as we may want that to be true. At least, I've never experienced "Stop it!" therapy as having much value or effectiveness, although Bob Newhart did get a lot of mileage out of it in his famous skit.
Almost every anxious client I work with would like their anxiety to end now! Immediately. During the first visit, if possible. Of course. This makes perfect sense. The experience of high anxiety or panic attack is so very uncomfortable. Plus, your anxiety is nothing if it isn't impatient. The thing is, reducing your anxiety is a process and it's a process that has value. Working through your anxious experience will reduce your overwhelming anxiety and it will do so much more.
Reducing Worry Takes More Than Simple Willpower.
Reducing Overwhelming Anxiety Requires More Than Reading A Great Self Help Book.
There are some great books out there, though, and they serve as wonderful educational tools and a great jumping off point for heading out on your own healing journey. Make sure to test drive a couple.
Reducing Anxiety Takes Time.
This is actually a good thing.
Or come close.
You'll rediscover yourself. Sort out your passions. Create better relationships. And new relationships. Try new things. Learn to say 'No.' Maybe for the first time. Learn to say 'Yes!' to the things that matter most for you. And to new things. Good things. Start to experiment with new freedom. Less self-judgement. Less judgement of others. Stop feeling victimized, resentful, and martyred. Stop beating yourself up. Whoa! Yes, it really can be a whole new world.
Oh! and reduce the awful impact of overwhelming anxiety and the misery that comes with it.
So, No, It isn't Possible to Just Toss Your Worries Aside. Not Instantly. Not Even With Your Great Willpower.
Eventually we need another way. A more gentle, methodical, self-compassionate approach. No more berating and shaming ourselves. No more merely pushing through it without actually addressing it. This is the gift a good course of therapy can bestow.
There's more freedom on the other side of your anxiety. With support, you can learn to swim through your anxiety to the other side. To life.