Parenting, It's a Big Job.
Yes, becoming a parent is momentous. And continuing to live life as a parent is learning to live with daily challenges. And gifts. Perhaps in equal measure. Raising children inevitably brings us face to face with our deepest and wisest, smallest and darkest selves. Daily. Moment by moment. Parenting is tough, both as an endeavor and for what it brings us to face within ourselves. And can be hugely rewarding.
Break Old Family Patterns.
The thing is it is easy to get lost, easy to second guess yourself, easy to pass along family patterns you had hoped to break. Every parent sets out to be the best parent they can be, working with the tools they have to work with. You have set out to be the best parent you can be. You have learned from your own family what worked and didn't work for you. Some things you hope to keep, other ideas and behaviors you hope to discard. Some of our experience is anchored deep within us and it takes more than will power to route it out. More than a couple great books, as helpful as they may be. More than the advice of your friends and family. It may take someone specialized in identifying patterns and supporting you in the process of creating new patterns, new responses, new ways of interacting with those you love. It may take the support of a therapist in a compassionate, non-judging approach to support creating the change you want to see in yourself and your family relationships.
Single Parents.
All the joys, trials, and tribulations of parenting are exponentially increased for the single parent. What was challenging to handle with your partner now lands squarely on your shoulders alone. Alone. In addition to negotiating the complicated role of single parent, the push and pull of moving your kids back and forth between two different households with two different sets of rules, the grief and anger of divorce, the sheer exhaustion of covering all the bases, you may be trying to rebuild your new life and sort out all the pitfalls of dating. Let alone trying to actually date and parent. Or, perhaps you have always been a single parent. Being alone and unsupported is nothing new for you. When you are a single parent, keeping life in balance, keeping food on the table, and a sense of perspective about life, demands a level of focus and optimism that is not always so easily maintained.
Get in Touch with Your Joy.
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You want parenting your children to be a joy. Yet, often that joy can become overshadowed by the stress and demands of normal family-life. Sometimes you just feel tired and irritable. Overwhelmed. Every parent has those moments. It may also be true you have become so busy with the demands of parenting you have lost a sense of yourself and where your needs fit in. In fact, if you have been parenting long enough, you may have forgotten you have needs at all. Or what those needs might even be. It happens to the best of us. You may not even notice until you are staring at that empty nest, wondering what the next step is for you.
Many stages of parenting can benefit from the support of a therapist. Take a deep breath and give yourself the gift of time and of taking a moment to think through things in a quiet space.
Many stages of parenting can benefit from the support of a therapist. Take a deep breath and give yourself the gift of time and of taking a moment to think through things in a quiet space.
VICTORIA WALLACE SCHLICHT, MA, LMFT, SEP
VICTORIA@TRANSFORMINGHEARTS.COM
1151 Dove Street, Ste. 285, Newport Beach, CA 92660
714.914.5565
"MAY YOU BE WELL.
MAY YOU BE HAPPY.
MAY YOU BE FREE OF SUFFERING."
~TIBETAN HEART MEDITATION
VICTORIA@TRANSFORMINGHEARTS.COM
1151 Dove Street, Ste. 285, Newport Beach, CA 92660
714.914.5565
"MAY YOU BE WELL.
MAY YOU BE HAPPY.
MAY YOU BE FREE OF SUFFERING."
~TIBETAN HEART MEDITATION